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Alex Terranova40
San Diego, CA
Recovering Asshole
Biggest Fear: Disappointing the people he loves
Biggest Commitment: To Add Value Everywhere
Bob Conlin, 44
Chicago, IL
Recovering Addict
Biggest Fear: Not seeing his son become a man
Biggest Commitment: Reparenting my inner child
Alex Terranova’s relationship with men and masculinity was formed and cemented early.

At a young age seeing his Dad's anger firsthand, he learned emotions are weak, volatile, and hurtful, so we are better off without them. One of his favorite mottos, "a person that can't control their emotions can't control their life. Emotions are a weak link." At the same time, he 
became obsessed with his Italian heritage and linked himself to the power, heartlessness, and fearlessness that Italian men in mafia movies owned. That coupled with what he saw in the 80s and 90's media characters surrounding the bad boy who used the charisma, their looks, and swag always to get the girl, a harrowing, cool guy emerged. Alex followed this path to a successful career in the Hospitality Industry, with too many hot failed relationships with women, an obsession with his looks, and a complete disregard for connection, happiness, or fulfillment.  
At 32 years old, while sitting in a restaurant with his family in Costa Rica, his cousin asked everyone what they were grateful for. As everyone answered, a well of emotions erupted inside of Alex. It was as if, in a moment, he woke up and realized his whole life and everything he had worked so hard to create was a lie…

Since 2015 Alex has transformed his life into one of Integrity, Love, Play, Spirit, and providing value! Through years of working with coaches, and therapists, the year-long transformation program he did with Accomplishment Coaching or the Landmark courses, Alex successfully transformed his life and relationships. As a Personal and Professional Performance Alchemist & Coach, 2x author (Fictional Authenticity; Release Your Past, Start Living Your Real Life, and Redefining masculinity) with a third book on the way, How Dreams Are Built, a podcast host (The DreamMason Podcast, The Frequency Shifters Show, The Coaching Show, and Playing with Problems) he works with men whose achievements and financial successes have not created the rewarding, joyful, and fulfilling life and business they desire.  

Alex is now living what he calls the vacation life, it’s a life filled with joy, passion, love, and commitments but with an overriding sense of ease.  His business is better than ever, yet he works less than ever, and his clients' lives, businesses, and relationships are thriving.  He has created a loving partnership with a radiant, empowered, loving woman (also a coach) Evin Rose, and together they live by the beach in Carlsbad, CA with their dog, Cali, and Cat, Tucker.  
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Bob Conlin's evolution was different…


At the age of seven, Bob’s father went to work one day and never came home. His father unexpectedly passed away leaving behind his wife and two sons. Being so young Bob did not have the emotional capacity to deal with such a devastating loss.  However, a seed was planted that would shape the trajectory of his life. Bob learned that the men you love will leave you. So don’t get close to them. With this seed of grief, Bob began to build a wall around himself to prevent further hurt. Relationships with Men became dangerous.

Friendships with men were built around drinking and drug use, surface level, and meaningless. Relying solely on himself, the crushing weight of self-sufficiency caught up to Bob in his early 30s. Going through divorce at the same time nearly losing his life abusing drugs and alcohol he arrived at the proverbial crossroads broken.


Bob was faced with two choices. Face his character defects and process the grief of his father’s death or continue on his path of self-sufficient destruction.  Bob learned the hardest lesson he has ever learned. He learned how to ask for help. Getting sober in 2007 laid the foundation for Bob’s healing and self-development work. During these early experiences in recovery, Bob learned about the importance of helping others and the altruistic gifts he inherently possessed. This is his purpose in life.

In 2016, Bob left a successful twenty year career in healthcare to pursue his Ontological coach training with Accomplishment Coaching, Landmark education, Whetstone and the Gottman Institute.

He stepped into his heart, leadership, authenticity and brilliance to become the founder of Conlin Coaching, LLC, co-created The Living In Love Incubator with his wife, and launched an eight week crucible called The Alchemy of Men. Bob is the author of Why My Relationships Suck, and co-author of Mastering the Game of Life and Speaking from Our Hearts Volume 10. Bob works with his own coaches, mentors, therapists, and sponsors to continue to grow as the man he is committed to being.

He works with his clients to create exceptional relationships with themselves, those they love, and those they impact. Bob’s client’s achieve levels of success thought previously impossible. Bob fundamentally believes that our fullest expression of life is experienced with those we are in relationship with and we are in relationship with everything and every one. Bob exists to create powerful relationships with courage and heart.

Bob is the father to a miracle child named Forest and the committed husband to his Goddess wife Shona. They live in Chicago in a historic 100 year old two flat. He is an avid outdoors man and musician. Bob lives a life full of love, abundance, and adventure. 

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The Alchemy of Men 2022 Food:
  • Is this a men's only retreat?
  • What if I change my mind, can I get a refund?
    There are no refunds. The purpose of the application and connecting with Bob and Alex is to determine if this retreat will be a good fit. Alex & Bob will also evaluate if they believe you are a good fit for this retreat. With limited spots both parties are making a commitment. After the agreement is made, there are no refunds, and Alex & Bob will be fully committed to you through the process and would expect you to also be fully engaged.
  • What forms of payment are excepted?
    Zelle Bank Transfers Venmo Credit Cards Cash & Checks are also accepted
  • How do I know that I will get results?
    Results are never guaranteed. Results are determined by the commitment and willingness of the Client. Alex and Bob take coaching and the transformation of their clients seriously and with the utmost importance. For over 15 combined years of experience, Alex and Bob's client base has been word of mouth and referral driven, so supporting their clients to success is 100% to their benefit to ensure his business grows.
  • What am I responsible for?
    Purchasing your airline tickets and transportation to the retreat house. Provide Bob & Alex with your airline ticket itinerary. Filling out all paperwork within 48 hours of signing. Choosing your payment plan and making a payment to reserve your spot. Bring own clothing for different experiences, work, dinner, working out, outdoor activities (hiking, sports, pool, etc)
  • What is the difference between Coaching & Therapy?
    Coaching is not therapy in disguise. Coaching is designed to help ambitious achievers meet the outcomes that will bring them success and fulfillment in any and all areas of life. It is future focused. How do we move you from where you are now to where you want to be. Therapy, also called counseling or psychotherapy, is a long-term process in which a client works with a healthcare professional to diagnose and resolve problematic beliefs, addictions, behaviors, traumas, relationship issues, feelings and sometimes physical responses. Therapy is pasted based and focus on event, moments, feelings, and behaviors, and past traumas to heal, repair and improve relationships and work through painful feelings to support someone in the present. Coaching, a client works with a coach to clarify goals and identify obstacles and problematic behaviors in order to create action plans to achieve desired results. Coaching is a present to future conversation. We relate to you as whole, complete, and capable of creating the life and experience you desire.

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